The Just Bee Perspective
Your mind is more powerful than you know. You are more powerful than you know.
This is a mantra I have recently adopted, and at any point of frustration or feeling of wanting to give up, I pause – for just a few seconds and take a deep breath, repeating these words. Your mind is more powerful than you know. You are more powerful than you know. Although just words, this reminder forces me to look within and reach for my power. And when I say power, I mean perspective.
You are never, ever your circumstance. In difficult moments of frustration, anger, and sadness especially, the hardest thing to do is to take a step back from the situation to perceive things differently. But learning how to do this is the best thing you can do for yourself. It is so easy to get caught up in a spiral of negative thoughts. When we recognize these thoughts as temporary, we learn to see things from a different viewpoint. We are able to step outside of ourselves and become the observer of our being. Having perspective on our life is powerful; this is the essence of mindfulness.
We are all gifted this power, but unfortunately we allow our emotions to control our actions and words, which we often later regret. Sometimes we just need to remind ourselves of the power of perception so we can learn how to use it wisely when dealing with, or rather coping with such emotions. Even though being “emotional” has a negative connotation, it is important to note that we have both positive (joy, empowerment, love) and negative (sadness, anger, worry) emotions. From each emotion, positive or negative, we either tend to move up the positive spiral or fall down the negative one. Separating yourself from an emotion (for instance by asking yourself, why am I feeling or thinking this way?) helps you see how much you are allowing the emotion to lead you into a spiral. Since mindfulness teaches us to sit with emotions, it helps us recognize certain patterns we have developed in our bodies and minds. Mindfulness shows us how to just bee with certain thoughts and feelings, without being controlled by them. The term emotion literally means energy in motion. Mindfulness on the other hand, is stillness.
The power of being still and observing things as we are instead of how things are is underrated. Just like anything else, we need to first acknowledge this power and then learn how to use and develop it, like a muscle. Your perspective is how you choose to see things – and it isn’t just about seeing the glass half-empty or half-full. Rather the glass can be seen as always full, with half air and half water, which is a beautiful way to look at things. It is up to you (and your perception - use that power!) to see the beauty in things.
“We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.” - Anaïs Nin